The teenage years is the time of experiment, finding yourself, peer pressure and the want and need of feeling included. It is some of the most freeing times of your life, but also can be the most difficult. You are learning who you are while trying to adapt to everyone around you. If I could go back in time and tell myself one thing, it would be to concentrate on myself and the improvement of my own purpose. It’s human nature to do and make the choices that seem “cool” and are the fads of the moment. But youngsters, fads don’t last. If you don’t fit in with one group, another will love you. If you don’t want to wear and do whatever is popular, don’t do it. You are perfectly made and built the way you are.
Who was I in high school? I was shy, but outgoing when I was with friends. Strict and loving parents made for early nights and I never stayed out past 11. Studying and homework were evening rituals, which lead to always making good grades. I had a great support system and was loved by many but teased by others. I had confidence but was so insecure. Dancing took up most of my time and I tried to concentrate only on what mattered for my future. I had a “good head on my shoulders” maturity.
While it was “cool” to party and do rebellious things, I preferred having sleepovers making silly videos and eating junk food with friends. As this does sound like the correct choice to make, I found myself wondering why I was the different one. I had no desire to drink and that didn’t make me fit in with the “in” crowd. One night I decided to go with one my friends to a party. I wanted to know what it was like. (Yes parents, the “I’m staying with so and so works every time. Be careful!) I wanted to be a “normal” high school student. I got to the party, had someone make me a drink, took one sip, and put the cup down. It just wasn’t for me.
To the younger generation, you have your whole life to do adult things. Wait. Live and enjoy your youth. Make silly mistakes. Learn from them. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Just be YOU!